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lpioch - Moderator

I'm looking for some input and ideas from parents of middle school aged kids.  I'm proposing a "curriculum enhancement" at our parochial school.  It basically has the kids read each week the readings of the Mass for the following Sunday.  Then, they answer a set of questions (that lead them to uncover the meaning and the connection between the readings).  The questions are leading.  That is, they are designed to uncover for the kids some important truths.  The answers are less important than the thought process behind reading and thinking about them.

The bottom line is that it is too much "on top of" what they already are required to do.  It's too much for the teachers to take on over and above what the need to be doing to begin with.  However, the school is open to sending these questions home and encouraging the parents to go through them with their kids.  Approximating 10 minutes to read the passages (hopefully the school will provide each child with a Bible) and another 10 minutes or so to read and answer the questions.  20 minutes total each week.

But since this is purely voluntary (read:  cannot tie it into their religion grade because the teacher is not teaching it in the classroom), it would be good to find some sort of incentive to encourage participation outside the classroom in the project.

And that's why I'm asking you.  :-)  What would motivate your school kids in the middle school to do something above and beyond the required school work?

So far, we've come up with 1) an increase in the "effort" grade for Religion class, 2) a certificate of accomplishment at the end of the year.  Also (and my favorite so far) is some sort of quarterly in-school recognition...even tied into some sort of service.  Like time away from class to help in the parish or the school or even outside the school.  But something that would be fun or motivating to kids this age.

Thoughts?

Ideas?

The spiritual benefits include:  Being prepared for the following Mass's Liturgy of the Word; Getting to know the Bible better; Working with and learning side-by-side with their parents (so, continued education for parents as well).

Thanks!

Posted 1 year ago #
mkochan - Moderator
Does your parish do Masses where the kids read in the Mass?  Our parish has differant grades provide lectors at differant Masses throughout the year. One way to do this -- and do it within the parish would be to form a lectors guild for the kids. Then readers would be selected only from among those who followed the program that you are suggesting. And yes, there could be grades and accomplishments at differant levels with badges or certificates or whatever.
Posted 1 year ago #
MREINER16 - Member

Ipioch-I think your idea is great and hope and pray for it to be successful. I teach 7th grade CCD and like your school, the Mass readings are not a "formal" part of each week's lesson. We have so much to cover in the year and even with the newly increased weekly 90 minute classes, it is difficult to cover it all. However, I do bring the reading's into class each week in one form or another. This work's best when the readings and a particular week's lesson are similar. In other cases, We'll use it as an opening reflection and I try to "lead" the kids in a discussion.

 

The incentive's and motivations you have listed are ok, but having had middle-school aged children of my own with a few more on their way, you may also need to add in some purely "self-interest" motivations. Perhaps some sort of field trip or if leaving the school is not an option, bring in a movie (Champions of Faith or other moral/religious based DVD) just for those who completed the assignments. This was , they get the recognition, but they also get a change in their routine. Plus kids love to get pulled out of "regular" classess for something like this. I think this would also motivate those kids that initially did not partcipate.

 

Well good luck. Your parish is lucky to have someone like yourself seeking to plant the seeds into the next generation.Smile

Posted 1 year ago #
on a journey - Inactive

Hello Ipioch!  Ditto MReiner16--your parish is lucky to have you!

Does your school have a weekly all-school Mass?  If so, you could ask the priest to use the Sunday readings, give a homily directed to the leading questions that the kids then take home and *hopefully* share them with their parents prior to the Sunday liturgy.  THen at least the kids have heard the readings and then maybe the repetition would stick with them AND their parents!

 Jesus, I Trust in You!

Posted 1 year ago #
Protect the Rock - Moderator

Our third and fourth eldest (of eight) are currently in middle school.

Remember the primary purpose of the lector's work is to bear fruit with the faithful listening at Mass, not the lector himself (or herself).

We've probably all experienced lectors who were very poor readers, could not be heard, had obviously had not prepared, did not present the sacred scriptures with the appropriate emphasis, or emphasis which confused the linkage between the OT, psalm, NT and Gospel readings.

How about a recurring homework assignment for each Monday morning which asks what it was about each of the readings from Sunday that make it appropriate for them to be together? Then they can present their view, and hopefully cite the homily.  The teacher could present a homily that ties it together (there are many available on the net).

As you go through the year, you can re-visit the senses of scripture and how the Church traditionally has taught us to read scripture.

I think most middle schoolers would find it interesting to "get it."

Posted 1 year ago #
MREINER16 - Member
on a journey-our parish does not have an all-school Mass, but they do have one for each grade throughout the year. So each grade does have at least one Sunday Mass that we can focus on. We also bring them to Confession once during the school year, we recite the Rosary during another "class" and hopefully this year we will have a Eucharistci Adoration hour.
Posted 1 year ago #
AlvinaL - Inactive

In my niece’s parish the CCD program offers the children the opportunity to serve as greeters, ushers, choir, cantors and lectors once a month during the school year at Saturday evening Sunday Vigil Mass.  The children are dressed up and so often their faces reflect pride and satisfaction.  The priest makes a special effort to teach the readings to children and parents.

In regard to lpioch’s question, What would motivate your school kids in the middle school to do something above and beyond the required school workSometimes the best answer comes from the parents and the children since they will be working together on this.

Posted 1 year ago #
AlvinaL - Inactive

lpioch, I will pray for you and the children, their parents in your school.

An aside:  Whenever I volunteer in the church as sacristan I thank the altar servers, lectors, Extraordinary Eucharistic Ministers, cantors, musicians and the priest.  “Thank you for all that you do for the Church.”  It means a lot to them.  It reminds them that their efforts are worthwhile when they participate as workers in God’s vineyard.

Posted 1 year ago #
wljewell - Member
God loves you . lpioch - one idea - the quarterly recognition could be tied into a quarterly little newsletter of 'best responses to the Spirit'. This would mean a small bulletin of maybe four pages that the kids could take home to further delve into the faith of Jesus Christ, and give them reason to really think about their own responses and, maybe, end up quoted next quarter. Remember, I love you, too Reminding that we are all on the same side - His, Pristinus Sapienter (wljewell @catholicexchange.com or ... yahoo.com)
Posted 1 year ago #
lpioch - Moderator

Thanks for the thoughts and ideas.  I'm working and praying on this one!

 

Just for clarification...

This is at my children's parochial school  (which is actually NOT my parish).

They do have MONTHLY Mass for the students (not weekly) during the school (week)day and the different grades rotate who helps at the school Mass.

This is completely separate from CCD (although if they decided to pass it along to the CCD of the parish, I'd be fine with that).

And NOTHING can be presented in the classroom   (READ: the teachers teaching religion don't have time to add more in....READ BETWEEN THE LINES: the teachers teaching religion do not have the ability to do lead such a discussion.)

Anything would have to be done by pure volition of the student and/or parents.  Therefore, there needs to be some good "perks" to help motivate even those that recognize this is a good idea, but already are filled to the brim with "stuff" to do.

 

Right now, my idea is to send home a set of leading questions on Monday for the following Sunday's Mass readings.  At the end of the week, send home a simple summary or commentary on how the readings relate.  After this post, I'll copy my "sample" questions and commentary.

What I'm trying to work out is some sort of "participation" reward system that will encourage the students to turn in the answers to the questions (cannot be required.  Cannot be tied into grade).  Maybe something even more extra if they write and turn in their own commentary.

 

Posted 1 year ago #
lpioch - Moderator

This is an example of the set of questions sent home for the readings of the 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time (Sept. 16th):

(Please forgive formatting issues)

 

Leading Questions for the Twenty-fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time


Exodus:

Does God seem rather mean in this account, threatening to destroy his own chosen people?


I thought God was perfect and all-powerful. Is it possible for God to “change His mind”?


Whose people are the Israelites? God's or Moses'?

The LORD said to Moses, “Go down at once to your people.”

But Moses {said}, “Why, O LORD, should your wrath blaze up against your own people?”


Is it possible that this was actually a test for Moses to see how faithful Moses would be to the promise God gave to his fathers, Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob (Israel)?


Do you see how important it is for us to pray to God for others? Not because we “change God's mind” but because His grace helps us become part of the solution.


Responsorial Psalm:

God was unhappy about the Israelites worshiping the golden calf in Exodus. Each one of us sins, turning our eyes from God to some other idol (be it ourselves, our pride, money, power, whatever). Who is the only one that can wipe out my offense, that can wash away my guilt, that can cleanse me of my sin, that can create a clean heart in me?


In the actual Response at Mass, we all say, “I will rise and go to my father.” between the Psalm 51 verses. How often do I think about God, who cleanses me and makes me new, as Father?


1 Tm:

In his letter to Timothy, St. Paul recognizes that he sinned against God (a blasphemer, a persecutor, arrogant), yet Jesus considers him trustworthy. How is this possible?


Did Christ come into the world to save sinners or to destroy them?


By being merciful to Paul, Christ shows how patient God can be with each of us. Which is more likely to be most patient when we do what is wrong? A master (of slaves)? An employer (of servants)? Or a father?

(Remember, however, that our own fathers are not always as patient as God. They're human, too.)


Luke (Gospel)

Who do the Good Shepherd and the woman with the 10 coins represent?


According to the parables of the Good Shepherd who “lost” a sheep and the woman who “lost” a coin, which brings more joy to heaven: those that are righteous? Or those that repent?


In the parable of the Prodigal Son, the younger son sinned – but came to recognize he did wrong and repented:

Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you;

I no longer deserve to be called your son.

The older son was the “righteous” one:

Look, all these years I served you and not once did I disobey your orders;

yet you never gave me even a young goat to feast on with my friends.

Would you describe the older son as having worked with love for his father? Or had his heart grown cold and jealous – even though he technically never did anything wrong?


When the Prodigal Son returned, what did his father do to greet him that is very human and very fatherly?


The father in the parable represents God. How often do I think of God as Father?


Which of our 7 sacraments brings us back to the Father after we sin and repent?

 

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Sample Commentary on the readings of the 24th Sunday in OT:

(remember, the idea is that the commentary is simple enough that an 8th grader could learn to write one on his own)

 

In the readings for the Twenty-fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time, God wants us to know him as a father. He wants us to be true to ourselves and recognize that we sin and turn away from him. But he does not want to punish us for that. Instead, he wants us to turn back to him with repentance and love. When we are repentant of our sins, God makes us clean again, and he trusts us to help those that are around us.

Posted 1 year ago #
lpioch - Moderator

I should also note that another "layer" to all this is trying to get the school to provide age-appropriate Bibles to the kids.  Maybe give them one as they enter 6th grade (and lost ones will need to be replaced by the parents?).  Then they learn how to actually USE the Bible and to read from it instead of "taking it on faith" that the durn thing exists!

Posted 1 year ago #
Protect the Rock - Moderator

lpioch,

 

Very good! I recommend also reading the homilies linked below.  They are short, but touch on some very good points that I think many middle schoolers would understand, but not have thought of.  

(24th Sunday, Year C): 

A Veneer of Forgiveness 

He Welcomes Sinners - And Dines With Them 

Why God Became Man

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